Monthly Archives: August 2012

How to Heal your Memories?

By Deline Tan

Memories are thoughts that are in-bedded in the mind, with events that cause us to remember for life. There are good memories and bad ones. It is bad memories that affect our future, the things that happen to us that haunt us. It affects us emotionally and robs us of our identity. Our personality is affected and we may be withdrawn, down-cast, fearful, weak and vulnerable to people’s attack, and it may also cause us to lose hope for the future. It is therefore important that we receive healing for our emotions if we have memories that made us less efficient.

What is the cause of bad memories? There are events in our lives that hurt and pain us, when we are being mobbed at or looked down upon. We may be persecuted or friends deserted us, or are being betrayed by loved ones. Such circumstances can destroy us and cause deep rooted wounds that marred us from living life to the fullest. Whatever that happens to us, how can we have a clear memory without a trace of pain or hurt that affect us?

First, forgive and let go. Lift your hurts up and allow healing to take place by choosing to forgive. Forgiveness frees us from wounded memories and helps us to be liberated from our inner depression. It allows us to be who we are by releasing all the hurts and wounds. By extending forgiveness, we are eventually healed by not allowing others to stand in the way of our feelings and thoughts. We can be free emotionally if we do not allow others to determine how we should feel. We can be ourselves and not allow any tension to build up in us. In another word, we can be free.

Secondly, get support from family members who are able to help us adjust to our feelings of hurt and pain. Communicate with them constantly and it is through sharing that our feelings are being released. As we talk it out, it get rids of agitation and resistance against others, and we may also be able to understand ourselves better. Sharing releases the tension in us and will help us to think better.

Thirdly, take a break and go for a holiday or take time to get to a cosy restaurant and eat what you like best. Eating can be a past-time and can be a de-stressor too. Enjoy the ambience of the restaurant, listen to the music in the background, and talk and laugh out with your family or friends. Laughing can be very liberating as the toxic in the body are being released when we laugh. It releases pressure and eases our mind. Learn to laugh at yourself and try not to take your own self too seriously.

Fourthly, go for a movie or watch television to relax. A comedy would be ideal to ease off stress or an action-pack movie can take us away from ourselves and be engrossed in something that relaxes our mind. It engages our mind to pleasure when we learn to relax.

Lastly, go for light-weight exercises like brisk walking, cycling, swimming or a racquet game like tennis or squash. Exercises release a chemical in our body that wards off cholesterol and releases the toxins in our body. It also burns fats in our body and makes us feel good and light after moderate exercises. Swimming is very good as it exercises all parts of our body.

Take actions to do the above and you may not suffer from insomnia or other crippling diseases. A healthy mind is a healthy body, and with it we can be confident, positive, interactive, out-going and secure. We need not fear our future, for we have a bright dream ahead of us, and we can maximise our efforts to be positive, to be the person that we really want to be.


Tea – Drinking to Health

By Deline Tan

Tea – the refreshing drink, and the health enhancer, is an antioxidant beverage that brings many health benefits. It is one of the ancient drinks that dated way back into the 5,000 year history.  The founder was Shen Nung, an Emperor from China. The story goes that one day while his servant was boiling hot water near the scrubs and thorny bushes, some leaves fell into the boiling water, and the water turned brown. Shen tasted the unusual brewing of the tea leaves and liked the taste as it is refreshing and well-liked.

Since then he had used this incident to introduce tea leaves as a form of beverage, and  many years down the road, many millions have taken a liking to it for its sweet-bitter taste. Research soon found that tea contains polyphenols, which is an antioxidant that fights and prevents many diseases.

The way to drink tea has gone through its many forms of experiments throughout the centuries. Tea-bags was introduced in 1908, which was invented by an American, Thomas Sullivan, a tea merchant. There are many kinds of tea, like Green-tea, Oolong-tea, White-tea, Black-tea and many more others; each has its own benefits.

The health benefits of tea are many. Due to its antioxidant ingredients, it helps lower blood pressure, lower cholesterol, and protect against heart disease. Green tea is known to help stem out oesophagus cancer. Green tea and Black tea slow down the spread of prostate cancer, and Green and White tea fight against colon cancer. Green tea may lower stomach cancer risk and boost the body’s defences. Green tea also helps kill leukemia cells. Many kinds of tea also contain fluoride which benefits the teeth, and has bacteria killing properties which help control bad breath and the formation of plague.

Tea may play the role as an Aids fighter. To get the most health benefits out of tea, choose high quality leaf that will elude the best taste out of it. Some people like strong tea and will brew two tea-bags all at one time. Milk is first added to the tea by Marie de Rabutin in 1680. Today people like sweet tea and the English in particular is fond of adding sugar and milk to the tea.

Soon tea has become the household choice for a superb tea-sip. Tea-party consists of tea consumption which adds as an appetiser to all the good foods that are wildly spread over the tea-table. In England tea is the national drink and they cannot go without it. People prefer tea over any other form of beverages, for its good property. In any major or minor meals, tea is highly consumed.

There are many ways to drink tea. You may just brew it, or you can have iced tea with a slice of lemon. Then there is Chai tea, which you drink it in a tiny Chinese cup and sip it. Depending on the taste of individuals, these different varied ways of drinking tea are highly practice today. Tea tasting today is something that people enjoy at tea-shops, and they can chat wildly while they taste their favourite tea and compare with each other which they like best.

Drink tea moderately each day, but the downside is that it causes insomnia because of the caffeine. Nevertheless, try not to drink it at night but rather during the morning after breakfast. The Chinese in China drink tea everyday and they are found to be without any sickness and enjoy long life.

Tea also helps in proper digestion after a good meal. It washes away toxic waste present in the digestive system. It is good to drink tea after an oily meal, as it aids in getting rid of the oily stuff from the meal. If you suffer indigestion, tea will help neutralise the free-radicals and act as antioxidant. The benefits of drinking tea are indeed great, and you get to enjoy better health as you consume it regularly. When you think of health, think of tea.

Lossing Weight – The Ideal Way

By Deline Tan

 Are you admiring someone for that petite figure that you long to possess? Are you overweight and having problem losing weight? Then you probably want to do one thing and that is to slim down.

You may have tried many methods and you probably have given up losing weight. Perhaps you tried eating less and cut down the calories, but much to your frustrations, it didn’t seem to work that you will ever slim down.

What else do you do than perhaps considering slimming centre, or worse off you starve yourself only to find yourself gorging in more food. In your desperate situation, you have perhaps given up totally.

While there is no other option for you than to eat less, you probably miss your favourite favoured ice-cream and cut down those chocolates. You even stop your snacks and bingeing time. You have one burning question – HOW CAN I LOSE WEIGHT?

Losing weight is no magical task. Some people take years to keep the size that they want, and what do you think is the success rate of these people who are on a diet plan? Sadly while they lost quite a bit of their weight, in years to come they unconsciously begin to put on those weights that they have lost.

What then is the secret to losing weight? Perhaps will power and self-control would probably work best if you are truly thinking of losing weight. It takes determination to lose those kilos and if you are self-disciplined coupled with strong will-power, you probably will make it in the next few years.

Take for example Philip Samuel, an Adviser of Larsen Oil & Gas, aged 42 and a hefty build of 115 kg. He has lost and maintained his weight through the years and currently aims to lose 8 kg in about three months.

He adds, “The saying goes that you eat like a king during breakfast, a queen during lunch, and a beggar during dinner. Well, I have learnt to cut down on my meal as I took two slices of bread with peanut-butter and cheese with a cup of coffee during breakfast.  During lunch I would have sandwiches, and dinner just soup.”

Indeed Philip sees the importance of cutting down what he eats as he deems it as the sure way to lose weight. He would work out at the gym in the afternoon during lunch hour for an hour three times a week and swim at least three times a month. He plays badminton and basketball to keep fit and lose those extra kilograms.

He continues, “Besides weekly exercises, I would also cycle either at the East Coast Park or Sembawang Park, Lebrador Park and Woodlands Park every weekend with my wife and daughter. It is one of the ways to keep fit.”

I spoke to Rajwin Singh, a young 24 year old undergraduate at SIM University. He used to be 98 kg and manage to loose to 82 kg in about four months time. How did he manage to do that?

He says, “In the morning I would run 5 km three times a week. I would also do 20 push-ups and 20 sit-ups and pull-ups every morning. I cut down on half the food that I used to eat and will allow myself to indulge during breakfast. For lunch I would take three quarters of the rice with vegetables and fish as my main meal. I would only eat two cereal wheatbix biscuits during dinner and will eat wholemeal bread instead of white bread.”

“I would also take two servings of vegetables and two servings of fruits daily to get my dietary fibre. My target now is to lose 12 kg to 70 kg. I want to keep fit with a healthy lifestyle, and I want to look good so that people will be attracted to me.”

Following his footstep is his mother, Viro Kaur, 54 years old and a mother of three children and three grandchildren. She weighs 70 kg and aims to lose to at least 65 kg.

She adds, “I’m conscious about what I eat and would choose brown rice instead of white rice, and will cook good oil like canola. It is important what you choose for your meals and what you eat.”

Indeed Viro is watchful over what she eats as she has two eggs and a slice of bread for breakfast, or she would opt for cereal, wheatbix or cornflakes, and a cup of tea. Lunch and dinner will be the usual curry, vegetables, chicken or fish and sometimes chapatti, and she only have a few mouthful of rice.

She would go for long walks of about an hour three to four times a week. In the past she tried slimming tablets but that gave her problems in her stomach and she stopped the easy way of losing weight.

She says, “Keeping fit and healthy are very important, coupled with what you eat and how you exercise regularly. It’s best to watch your diet as that is a certain way to lose weight.”

Are you too thinking of losing weight and you do not know how? Keep in mind that as you eat less and exercise regularly, you will lose weight and feel better about yourself. The people that I have interviewed proved that it is possible to lose weight through sheer determination in exercising and cutting down on their diet. You too can find the means to do likewise if you are serious about losing weight and make the commitment to do so.

Think exercise and eat less or cut down what you usually eat. You will surely see yourself losing that extra kilos and you can set your own target to lose the weight you want and see yourself the new you.

Six Steps to a Healthier You

All of us want to keep a healthy and fruitful life. However, there are steps that we need to take in order to enjoy healthy living. There are six steps that you can take in order to   enhance that.

1. Be physically active – Exercise is one of the most important aspects of our lives. Most of us are busy working that we find little time to exercise, but we need to take it as a top priority in our lives if we want to live healthily.

Exercise helps to alleviate sicknesses, like diabetes, high blood pressure and stroke. It helps to prevent high cholesterol, and helps to keep a tone muscle and gets rid of fats. It also keeps you young and helps de-stress all stresses daily.

2. Eat a balance diet –  Food is an important component for healthy living. We are what we eat. We need to eat a balance diet in order to enjoy good health and be free from sicknesses. A balance diet consists of 40-35-25 diet, which is 40% carbohydrates, 35% proteins, and 25% fats. This is essential to help the body function properly and maintain good health.

3. Maintain a healthy weight – With a balance diet, we can help maintain a healthy weight. We need to eat wisely, and if you snack, choose those that provide healthy nutrients. For example, have nuts instead of pastry.  All nuts have nutritional value of good fats and fibre, which boosts healthy diet; whereas cakes, ice-creams, donuts and other wheat or flour stuffs consist of refined sugar which turn into fats deposits once digested. It is important that we have a lean healthy body.

4. Reduce or control your stress – All of us live a stressful lifestyle and we need to know how to de-stress. Prolong stress can lead to sicknesses like mental illness or depression. We need to unwind during our day off from work and engage in activities like sports, go to the movie, and engage in healthy leisure like shopping. This is to help alleviate the stressful lifestyle, and balance it up with good healthy activities.

5. Drink at least 6 to 8 cups of water per day – Water makes up 60% of fluid in our body;  we need water in order to prevent dehydration. We can go without food for days, but we cannot survive without water. Drinking adequate drinking water daily helps maintain the fluid level in our body and helps us in our bowel movement too.

6. Reduce your salt intake – We need salt for our food to taste good. However, too much salt leads to sickness like high blood pressure. We need to monitor our salt intake to one teaspoon a day; more than that would be harmful.

Take these six steps with a stride and you will lead a healthy and ageless lifestyle.

Procrastination – The Back Load

By Deline Tan

What do you like most in life? What do you do with your free time? Reading a book? Watching television? Surf the net? Shopping? Or going to a movie? Whatever you do, have you the sense of urgency that you need to accomplish something real bad, but you never get to do it? Have you ever thought that you may not have such leisure from the above if all your works are piled up because of procrastination.

Procrastination  is something that we all have one way or another fought with. What seems like an urgent task, however, seems to be neglected even if we realise the urgency of it all. How then do we tackle this monstrous habit that causes us to see our deadline being interrupted and sometimes the project that we deem important being delayed.

First, let us look at what procrastination is.  It is putting off the time to do a task that is necessary but somehow is being delayed. I heard a comment once that there is no such thing as procrastination because nothing is done and nothing exists. Well, in a sense that is true, because nothing is done and nothing of a work existed. However, we all agree that in one way or another, we may be caught up with this milieu and we want to know how to get out of it.

Secondly, let us examine why procrastination occurs? It is something that the human nature, can in a sense neglect to do what is needed or expected, or it is something that the person keep putting behind what needs to be done. The question is, why is there such an attitude?

Lack of urgency may be one area that the procrastinator falls into. Perhaps it may be something that he drags doing and tries to put it off. Maybe it is something that reminds him of an unhappy occasion to get the work done. There are many reasons why the procrastinator is unable to solve this so call bad habit and may even desire that this habit be eliminated completely.

The good news is, yes, this habitual milieu can be done away with if you take the first step to acknowledge such a habit; and secondly, making a conscientious effort to put away  such an attitude. In another word, you make an immediate effort to get the task done even before you try to put it off or give excuses.

However, no matter what the tasks are, it takes consistency to perform  without the habit of putting things off. One way to tackle it is to be conscious of your bad habit, and with this realisation, made an effort to eradicate the habit. It takes practise and as you put a conscious effort to tackle the habit, soon you are able to make good strides at what you are unable to do before.

What are the chances for a procrastinator to quit the habit? Some people just don’t care because they have all their life been putting things off, and they think its okay not to get the task done even though it is important. For example, you know that you have a project to do, and someone invited you out, you are tempted to go to the appointment even though the project may be delayed. Self discipline may be the area that you need to readjust to. Sometimes a relationship may be affected if the procrastinator fails to do certain things that he promised the other person with. If you constantly back off your words to your peers, you will find one day that you will be loosing a lot of friends.

Procrastinating a task is bad and should be eradicated. Nobody likes to be put off to a promise that is not kept. We must be careful that we don’t violet the principle of trust. Procrastination is bad and we should avoid it at all cost. It makes you sluggish and lazy, and you can never complete the tasks that you want to do. Set priority to work out your plans. Plan your work and make every effort to accomplish it. Always aim to do a task immediately and you have no room for procrastination.