By Deline Tan
Did you know that the biggest scram that mankind ever faced today is bodyless friendship? What I meant by that is that we are all hooked up in our computer screen, with social media taking the lead, sucking the time out of people that friendship is now not in physical appearance but through the screen of your computer.
Friendship no longer is a personal touch of a cup of coffee in the favourite cafe, but we just chat our way through facebook, twitter or linkedin, no longer a personal gesture in the real person. Don’t you think this is bad for our social life, where we no longer are personal with friendship, but we talk to strangers in the net and neglect the real sense of touch in a real person.
There is a difference in touching base with one another in a meal or over a drink, than sitting slouchyly at the desktop in meeting the real needs of a human being. Man is created for fellowship. Without the tangible real touch of personal attention, man will slowly decay into couch potatoes.
We have feelings and expressions to relate and be connected with one another, but if we streamline friendship to the computer screen, we are killing our personal emotions and sensitive touch in our build up as human to communicate. Take a baby for example. If you fail to touch the baby or cuddle and hold her tide in your arms, the baby will lose her identity with you and slowly deteriorated into mere vegetables. A baby without touch will not survive, so is relationship without a personal touch is dead.
An average person spend almost one third of their time on the computer screen during the week, some is hooked to the screen with about five to six hours of surfing the net. People are locking themselves in the computer, that if the computer were to crash, the person will feel very helpless and lost. Without the computer, we can’t function and everything else we do is tied in to the usage of computer.
However, the computer age has advanced the technology in the pace that is accelerated with powerful knowledge and keys to operate for living. This powerful machine is building wisdom and knowledge through a touch screen, and if there’s anything that you need or want in life, you just go to goggle search and everything that you are looking for is there. We no longer lack knowledge, and life’s answer seems to be in the touch of the buttons.
Bill Gates is so smart to have invented the computer for the world, as the wisdom endow to the creation of such a machine is astounding. Now we have ipad that is replacing the computer in its popularity, and everything we need to find out for our needs are just a few touch buttons behind. Life’s answer seems to be found in the computer age.
How then do we reverse this negative affection of the computer to real life affection of people that we can chat and feel the personal touch of life with? We need to prioritise our time for friendship in people and be interested in people, as that is what life is all about – people, feelings, sharing of problems, affection, relational touch, and every personal touch of our life with our friends must be top priority if we want to maintain a life of relationship with others.
Take effort to once a week spend time with your family and friends over a cup of coffee; either Saturday or Sunday, and touch base with people to make life meaningful and exciting; sharing your life moments; either in tears or laughter, and learn to be passionate about relationship, as that is what an affectionate and caring life mean – touching base, caring for one another, sharing your endearing moments, and let your physical presence make a difference in the life of your loved ones and friends.
What do you do this Saturday? Care to have a good meal with a long lost friend; by calling up the person and enjoy your lovely meal with one whom you treasure and deem important in your life.